12/9/2023 0 Comments Take a break from facebook dating![]() You’re both at the bar, now say something! You’re already out there, and you’re not alone. But why does it matter? You already showed you were interested. Huh? Now, I know the argument here-you want the other person to start the conversation. They both then turn around and walk back to their tables, having never said a word to each other. The other person gets up as well and meets them there. ![]() One person nods their head toward the bar-indicating they want to talk-and gets up and walks to the bar. ![]() Two people are making eye contact across the room. You essentially said (albeit virtually), Yes, I’m interested in you.” That person agreed that they are interested in you too. The point of the profiles is to show you potential, not give you a reason to pick someone apart. And just because you meticulously chose each of your photos, ensuring they all equally contributed to the vibe you wanted to portray, doesn’t mean everyone was that methodical in putting together their profile. It isn’t fair to use a bad date in the past against someone you’ve never met. Would you want the same assumptions made about you? Probably not. Look at the large assumptions you are making about someone based off one photo or one answer to a meaningless question. But perhaps it’s time to take a step back and really look at your criteria. Yes, you must have some sort of selection process – you can’t swipe right on everyone. If they didn’t take the time to answer some questions, they’re either lazy or douchey.” “I don’t swipe right on anyone with an incomplete profile. But you might be taking it a little too far and I’ve witnessed it firsthand… In the dating world, this is especially easy to do as you swipe through an endless supply of profiles with only a handful of photos to work with. The rest we are making up based on historical data. The problem is that we are painting a picture of an entire person when only given a few brush strokes. From coworkers to fellow grocery shoppers, we use limited information as signs of who someone is on a larger scale. We all do this to some extent, and we do it in almost every situation. You’re picking apart each photo and assigning a story to every piece. Something in the photo told you something about that person that you knew you wouldn’t like.īut here’s the thing: you don’t know. You see one photo or even something in the background of a photo and boom-you swipe left. You’re making too many assumptions from too little information. Here are three signs you may need to step away from the swiping. Sound familiar? Well, as with anything you do in life, when you find yourself burnt out, it’s time to take a break. ![]() And sadly, this pessimism is trending among online daters. I couldn’t blame them-their list of trials and tribulations was legit. It was like the dating world of possibility had come crashing down on them, leaving nothing left but a sea of negativity in its wake. No one was hopeful about the plethora of prospects at their fingertips. There I was, surrounded by several amazing single ladies, each entrenched in online dating, and no one was optimistic. I quickly saw a pattern, and it wasn’t a positive one. I was recently with a group of friends and we started talking about the various dating apps.
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